Is New York’s Gay Marriage Truly Historic?

Tori and Kate Kendell marry, holding infant daughter Tori (left) and Kate Kendall, who already shared the same last name, hold their five-month-old baby, Zadie, during their wedding on June 17, 2008, in West Hollywood, California.

Tori and Kate Kendell marry, holding infant daughter Tori (left) and Kate Kendall, who already shared the same last name, hold their five-month-old baby, Zadie, during their wedding on June 17, 2008, in West Hollywood, California.

Google “New York Gay Marriage” and 73 million plus stories pop up, explaining, celebrating or lamenting the legalizing of gay marriage in New York. Bridal and tuxedo shops are bracing happily for an onslaught of wedding-minded gay partners. An ever-cautious President Obama praises the process of New York legislature’s democratic debate on the subject. Shocked homophobes and opponents of anti-gay marriage pray hard against it. Archbishop Timothy Dolan, who confessed his disappointment and need for “a good dose of the Lord’s graced and mercy,” adds that despite his pro-(heterosexual)marriage views, he loves gays very much. And Secretary of State Hillary Clinton calls the vote “historic.”

Historic? Very much so, but not in the way that Clinton means. Gay people have always been around, and in eras when homoeroticism was viewed more matter-of-factly, as in ancient Egypt, various Greek city states, and the Roman Empire, there is evidence of same-sex unions, and perhaps marriage. What else to make of the Sifra, a third-century commentary on Leviticus often cited by the Talmud, forbidding the Israelites from copying what they believed to be Egyptian practices:

And what would they do?

A man would marry a man and a woman would marry a woman; a man would marry a woman and her daughter; a woman would be married to two men.

That is why it is said, “nor shall you follow their laws.”

In ancient Greece, some fathers consented to quasi-marital unions between their sons and men who desired them. Similarly, in China’s Fujian province in the Ming dynasty (1368 to 1644), women ceremoniously bound themselves into intimate unions with girls, and men did the same with boys. These relationships ended years later, and the adult spouses then helped their young partners find and marry opposite-sex spouses.

By the time of the early Roman Empire, there were some references to same-sex marriages. The Roman historian and biographer Suetonius reported that the emperor Nero attempted to transform the youthful Sporus into a woman by castrating him. Then he married the maimed boy in traditional rites, and afterward treated him as his wife. (Nero had previously assumed the role of bride and took his wine steward, the freedman Pythagoras, as his husband.)

The satiric—and probably bisexual—poet and social commentator Martial described how “Bearded Callistratus married the rugged Afer in the usual form in which a virgin marries a husband. The torches shone in front, the wedding veil covered his face. … Even the dowry was declared. Are you still not satisfied, Rome? Are you waiting for him to give birth?”

In 117 ad, the satiric poet Juvenal castigated the aristocrat Gracchus for – well, read on, and see how very “historic” gay marriage, and the response to it, really is:

Gracchus gave a dowry of 400,000 sesterces to a cornet player—or perhaps he’d performed on a straight horn. Marriage documents were signed, felicitations offered, they sat down to a great banquet, and the new bride lay in her husband’s lap. … This very man who now dons flounces and a dress and a bridal veil, he bore the sacred implements swaying on their mystic thong, and he sweated beneath the shields of Mars.

Father of Rome, how came such sacrilege to your Latian shepherds? How is it, Mars, that such an itch possessed your descendants? Just look at it: a man of high birth and estate is given in marriage to a man, yet you do not shake your helmet, nor strike the earth with your spear, nor complain to your father. …

If we live long enough, [homosexual marriage] will happen, and happen openly; they will even want it reported in the city gazette.[i]

The earliest known photograph of a North American berdache is titled “Squaw Jim and his Squaw.” Jim is an enlisted scout honoured for his bravery after he saved the life of a tribesman in the Battle of the Rosebud, June 17, 1876.

The earliest known photograph of a North American berdache is titled “Squaw Jim and his Squaw.” Jim is an enlisted scout honoured for his bravery after he saved the life of a tribesman in the Battle of the Rosebud, June 17, 1876.

Now let’s look closer to home, where early European visitors were astonished (and repelled) by North American native versions of same-sex unions. The Crow people, for example, recognized a third gender, or berdache, understood by natives as “two spirit” people possessed of both maleness and femaleness and, in many tribes, permitted to marry partners of the same sex.

The polygamous Aleut and Cheyenne permitted male berdaches to be co-wives of a man alongside single-spirit women. Whether they married monogamously or polygamously, berdaches had to observe traditional kinship rules for marriage. “Strange country this,” observed fur trader Edwin T. Denig in 1833, “where males assume the dress and perform the duties of females, while women turn men and mate with their own sex!”[ii]

Centuries later, New York has joined the growing number of jurisdictions including Canada, where a 2005 federal law legalized same-sex marriage country-wide. New York’s brand-new law, too, is only historic in that it grants to all interested citizens the right to same-sex marriage once available only in some Native tribes, and in antiquity, to powerful males.


[i] Juvenal, quoted in Frier, “Roman Same-Sex Weddings from the Legal Perspective.”

[ii] Quoted in Roscoe, Changing One, p. 3.

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The Ghosts of Duvalier – By Elizabeth Abbott | Foreign Policy

The Ghosts of Duvalier – By Elizabeth Abbott | Foreign Policy.

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WAS J.M. COETZEE’S ELIZABETH COSTELLO INSPIRED BY CANADA’S ELIZABETH ABBOTT?

Elizabeth Costello

Literature is rife with naming mysteries, from Dominick Dunne-like romans à clef to Shakespeare’s “Who is Sylvia?” Esteemed poet Ken Babstock has introduced a new twist into the name game, and it’s jarringly personal. In “Russian Doctor,” a poem in his just-released collection, Methodist Hatchet, Babstock concludes that Nobel Literature Prize winner J. M. Coetzee’s Elizabeth Costello is modeled on … Elizabeth Abbott. That’s right, on me!

Elizabeth Abbott (and Bonzi)

I’m not inventing this. Here, as proof, is the selection Babstock starred as he presented me with an autographed copy of Methodist Hatchet the day before he flew to Berlin for a year’s stint as a visiting scholar. “Thank you for lending your identity,” he’d scrawled. Actually, I can thank the age-old literary device that, in this case, transformed Abbott into Costello. But judge for yourself.

The worst of the glare slid behind the sales lot tinsel

and she wasn’t a stranger at all. No

stranger; my neighbour, Liz. Elizabeth Abbott.

You may know her work: Celibacy

 

Mistresses, something on Haiti, and recently, Sugar.

Her home a hospice for dying dachshunds

way station for incoming rescues from Serbia (we nearly

took in Dunja last month.) So, animal

rights activist, retired academic, vegan, but here’s where

the Danish gets sticky. Just last week it dawned

on me, in a dinghy adrift on Georgian Bay, while rethinking

the preponderance of pumpkins in The Life

and Times of Michael K, while the sun crested the horizon

over Huron and settled like a South African

in Brisbane, before I’d had either coffee or chance to tally

the consequences, it came to me, Coetzee – J.M. – him

had modeled Elizabeth Costello on this Elizabeth Abbott.

I know what you’re thinking, but stop. I looked

them up. A conference, Belgrade, ’91, they shared

keynote address three ways with Martha Nussbaum

and must have had, at the very last, lunch, if not more.

I know what you’re thinking. He’d submitted

a paper but was, shocker, turned down: “Paranoia: Can We

Live Among the Animals?” – R. Karadzic.

I’ve read and reread this at least a baker’s dozen of times, with emotions ranging from shock and consternation to resentment and guilt. And comprehension! So that’s why Babstock told poet Karen Solie, interviewing him about Methodist Hatchet, that “Yeah, I’m sure it’ll annoy some people, there’s not much I can do about it. There wasn’t any other way for me to inhabit the world, the poems, this time around….. I think humans, others, even named others, appear at the level of the symbolic in the book and at the level of actuality in the domestic and in love, right up to puppetry. I didn’t know they were going to flood in, I guess, but they have, what am I going to do about it? J. M. Coetzee’s gonna sue me.” [laughter] “Why is J. M. Coetzee in my book?”[laughs][i]

Ken Babstock with Linda, his disabled German Shepherd Dog

I fished Elizabeth Costello from my bookshelf where it had been wedged next to its slim matrix, The Lives of Animals.  Both volumes were gifts from friends who just knew, they told me, that I was Coetzee’s ideal reader. (The Slow Man, Elizabeth Costello’s latest foray, is another story.) But – I saw – I had been critical, and had pocked Elizabeth with citrine Post-Its marking my dismay. How I had wanted Costello and the animals she championed to emerge victorious in her mission to win over her audiences with rigorous logic and learning!

“I want to find a way of speaking to fellow human beings that will be cool rather than heated, philosophical rather than polemical, that will bring enlightenment rather than seeking to divide us into the righteous and the sinners, the saved and the damned, the sheep and the goats,” she said in her (too) measured way. I was tense then, and tense again in rereading, because she anticipates the defeat (“the concession of the entire battle”) I felt crushing us both, and the animals with us.

And yet it’s all there, every truth, every righteous notion, every goodness, the heart “the seat of a faculty, sympathy, that allows us to share at times the being of another.” And in that moment at least, Elizabeth Abbott was indistinguishable from Elizabeth Costello.


[i] http://www.brickmag.com/brick-87/babstock

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Big love or big lie: Should a liberal society tolerate polygamy?

Carolyn Jessop - "Polygamy is creepy."

When the British Columbia government’s polygamy reference case opened at the province’s Supreme Court on November 22, 2010, a stream of participants and witnesses, including representatives from the Canadian Coalition for the Rights of Children, REAL Women of Canada, the Christian Legal Fellowship, and academic experts, testified about the many harms associated with polygamy. Carolyn Jessop, who fled a Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints (FDLS) community in Utah with her eight children in the middle of the night, summed it up well: “Polygamy is not pretty to look at. It is nice that it is tucked away in a dark corner where nobody has to see its realities, because it’s creepy.”

But George Macintosh, the amicus curiae appointed to present the opposing argument, came out swinging. He characterized Section 293 of Canada’s Criminal Code, which bans polygamy, as an overly broad and grossly disproportionate law rooted in Christian prejudices, a law demeaning to polygamists. Women in polygamous marriages anonymously testified that they were happy, that they’d made the right decision. According to CBC, the BC Civil Liberties Association argued that “consenting adults have the right — the Charter protected right—to form the families that they want to form.” And the Canadian Association for Free Expression maintained that the legalization of same-sex marriage in 2005 strengthened the individual’s right to enter a polygamous marriage.

The rights argument carries considerable weight in a liberal society. But something that hasn’t been fully considered but should be factored in to any reasonable decision is that rights can’t be separated from the culture in which they arise. They are inextricably linked to institutions that form the backbone of a society, and in every society throughout history the fundamental organizing institution has always been marriage.

From the beginning, it seems, marriage has been a financial agreement, a way of distributing resources.  But it has not been exclusively monogamous. In old Babylonia, for example, a marriage contract might include a stipulation for polygamy. While polygamy would never be the primary form of marriage — as the case of Bountiful, B.C., illustrates, huge segments of the male population would be out of luck — it was certainly widespread. And it’s clear that it provided unique advantages.

Polygamy acted as husbandly insurance against an individual wife’s barrenness, as well as high child mortality rates, and made ill or aging wives less burdensome. With so many children, polygamists had plenty of sons to work the land or contribute to their commercial ventures; in militaristic societies, these sons were prized as military recruits. Daughters, less valued, were still useful for domestic work, or to be advantageously married off to polygamous men.

Mormon religion founder Joseph Smith's very large family

Seven of Mornon leader Brigham Young's wives

Polygamy is also entrenched in another ancient institution, patriarchy, and in this context of women’s assumed dependence it actually offered them certain protections. The expandable nature of the polygamous union meant there was a better chance another man would take in a wife who wanted to leave her current husband, or whose husband wanted to leave her. It also meant men were less likely to renounce unwanted, old, sick, or barren wives in the first place; even if they were shunted aside in favour of younger, healthier women, they at least remained married. Co-wives would typically share a residence or compound, co-operating in household duties, including raising one another’s children.

And yet such unions could also very easily succumb to ever-simmering tensions and jealousies. This was especially true with regard to children, rivals for their father’s attention and resources, and whose interests each mother attempted to promote at the expense of the other children. Moreover, an unhappy woman had little choice but to endure her lot; even if the prospect of single life seemed preferable, she would be forced to leave her children behind, possibly with an angry father and vindictive co-wives.

While early Christian patriarchs were polygamous — the Biblical King Solomon, with 700 wives, spectacularly so — the Church gradually renounced the practice, largely because Greco-Roman culture happened to prescribe monogamy. Christians born into the monogamous tradition explained away the Old Testament’s stories about polygamy as a fast track to fulfill God’s instructions to populate the world when it had fewer people; in chapter 7 of On the Good of Marriage, AD 401, St. Augustine wrote, “Now indeed in our time, and in keeping with Roman custom, it is no longer allowed to take another wife.”

By about 1300, Christianity had spread across Europe, and despite pockets of resistance — the sixteenth-century Anabaptists, for instance —installed monogamy along with it. Little changed until, in the eighteenth century, the Western world was rocked by the combined force of the Enlightenment and the Industrial Revolution. While philosophers and political thinkers challenged age-old assumptions about authority, industry created a resource-rich middle class, which increasingly populated cities, where word spread quickly: the divine right of kings had given way to the notion of universal rights to life, liberty, and property.

These new ideas ultimately altered the balance of power between men and women, and transformed society and marriage. The family’s control over its children’s marriages was increasingly tempered by a regard for individual preferences, and the idea of marrying for love gained momentum. Love would provide companionship, emotional satisfaction, and, most important, an end to the cruelty that marked so many marriages. Women saw love as the lifeline to a decent life, an assurance that they would be treated respectfully by their husbands.

An 1840 Image Caricaturing the New Ideals of Romantic Love and Individual Privacy

But as love and marriage became increasingly linked in the popular mind, so did the idea of ending loveless marriages — a significant peril of this new incarnation of monogamy. For the profoundly religious, dissolving a marriage isn’t an option, but by the nineteenth century the traditional authority of Christian churches had declined significantly, and divorce became a legal rather than a moral issue. In 1968, Canada passed the Divorce Act, with provisions for no-fault divorce and universal access to spousal support. By making it feasible for women to leave, divorce law had effectively liberalized marriage.

Meanwhile, a great deal of liberal infrastructure was developing around the concept of monogamy. Take personal income tax: first levied in 1917 to finance the First World War, it became the welfare state’s greatest source of revenue, and the calculation always assumed monogamy, simply because that was the only legal form of marriage. The same basic configuration has shaped most modern benefit programs: social assistance, Employment Insurance, Old Age Security or the Canadian Pension Plan, private health insurance, and pensions.

FLDS patriarch Winston Blackmore gestures to a few of his wives and children. (CP - Jonathan Hayward.)

In this context, polygamy has come to seem an abomination. After the FDLS established a community in Lister, B.C., in 1946, polygamous men in the U.S. who struggled to support huge households began to flock there. Their Canadian(ized) wives were eligible for free medical care, day-care subsidies, and eventually the Old Age Pension. As soon as the women were impregnated, their status as technically single mothers also entitled them to claim welfare assistance and other child benefits, a practice known as “bleeding the beast.” By the early 1980s, several hundred members lived in the community which in 1984 was renamed Bountiful.

There is something unsavoury about the FLDS, a religious group headed by smug patriarch Winston Blackmore,  taking advantage of Canada’s liberal institutions, but isn’t that bad taste the best test of our commitment to liberalism? Why shouldn’t we find a way to advocate on behalf of FDLS members to practise polygamy unhindered, on the grounds of religious freedom?  Why not, in fact, open up marriage to polygamists by legalizing the right to engage in it?

In answering that question, it’s useful to imagine for a moment doing so. Among all the benefits programs we would have to overhaul, perhaps the most satisfying would be welfare, since we could prevent the wives of Bountiful from “bleeding the beast.” But complex issues would arise to adapt various benefit programs that hinge on marriage, and in all but welfare the project would be further confounded by the fact that multiple wives would cost the provider more. Furthermore, distinctions could lead to court challenges, and require wide-ranging legislative changes. When the Ontario court ruled, in 1999, that the definition of common law marriage included same-sex unions, the provincial government had to amend sixty-seven statutes, but that’s nothing compared to the nationwide administrative crisis that would ensue if we attempted to accommodate polygamy.

The thornier issue, however, is marriage itself. The legislated definition of marriage as “the lawful union of two persons to the exclusion of all others,” was only just passed in 2005, and would be easy enough to fix by deleting the second clause. But divorce law, which is how the state promotes equality within monogamous unions, is ill equipped to do the same within polygamous ones. Provincial laws currently ensure that when two parties end a marriage, assets accumulated during the relationship are divided equally, with limited exceptions. How much of a husband’s contribution to the marital property would a departing wife receive if she had eight co-wives? One-tenth? But what if those wives appeared on the scene later or earlier — or both?  It would not only be infinitely complicated to apply divorce law to polygamy; it would never meet Western liberal standards of fairness. A husband could always dilute his wife’s stake in the family assets by unilaterally deciding to marry another wife.

19th Century Image Caricaturing Brigham Young's Widows, after Young's death in 1877. But how would one or more of these sister wives have negotiated a divorce from their shared husband?

American legal scholar Adrienne Davis, who believes that conventional family law rooted in monogamous marriage may not be up to attempts at cobbling polygamous marriage onto it, points out an alternative: commercial partnership law. Typically used when two or more parties go into business, according to Davis it would certainly address “polygamy’s central conundrum: ensuring fairness and establishing baseline behaviour in contexts characterized by multiple partners, on-going entrances and exits, and life-defining economic and personal stakes.”

But this is not what polygamists want, and it’s not what we want. Remember, liberal marriage was built on the concept of love; it’s hard to imagine a way of squaring this with the filing of an annual marriage report.

In our longing to ensure that everyone enjoys every possible right, we have been willing to stretch our imaginations, swallow our bile, and give polygamy a chance. That is no less than our values demand of us. But legalizing it is not ultimately in the same category as legalizing gay marriage. While much has been made, in particular, of the parallel between sanctioning same-sex unions and sanctioning polygamy, not least by polygamists themselves, the outcomes couldn’t be more different. The former brought people into an existing system of rights; the latter poses a significant threat to that system.

And that’s probably our cue, as a liberal society, to hold our noses and draw the line.

From the National Post, June 7, 2011.

http://www.nationalpost.com/news/love/4903149/story.html]

A longer version of this piece appeared in the May edition of The Walrus magazine.

http://www.walrusmagazine.com/articles/2011.05-law-to-the-exclusion-of-all-others/

And onward we plod....

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Whodunnit? From Condoms to Cucumbers, the National Blame Game

Leading the pack of scapegoats in Germany’s e-coli outbreak are Spanish vegetable farmers, as innocent as their cucumbers of contaminating (to date) hundreds of German salad eaters – make that salad eaters in Germany.

Spanish Cucumbers, Now Absolved

In the first wave of panic, the crunchy green veggie was singled out. Days later it was exonerated, but not before thousands of Spanish farmers were devastated and perhaps ruined as the European (Dis)union rushed to national judgement. Only choleric Russia did not discriminate, and banned all EU veggies from Russian plates: LET THEM DRINK VODKA!

Victim of the French/English/Spanish/Christian/Polish Disease

It late nineteenth century England, when syphilis stalked the land, Englishmen and women died (they said) of the French Disease that in its French incarnation, however, was known as La Maladie Anglaise while the Russians condemned it as the Polish disease, the Dutch called it Spanish and the Turks condemned it as the Christian disease.

Is it a French Letter or an English Safe?

If only its legions of victims had worn a cucumber-like English safe or a French Letter to protect themselves!

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Word Clouds – Or How I Stopped Hating Algorithms

I flunked first year college math and algorithms were partly to blame. To me, algorithms were mysteriously ordered numbers at the back of the book; to the professor and most of my classmates, they were mathematical tools they (but not I) could manipulate in their various calculations.

It's all Algorithmic Greek to Me

Decades did nothing to alter my (non)grasp of algorithms. But today, after an emailed Word Cloud made me catch my breath at its fantastical kaleidoscope of tumbling words, I had an epiphany: in the right hands, algorithms process and pummel words into artworks as fanciful and compelling as a burst of laughter.

I don’t know who invented Word Clouds but if my math professor had, and if he’d told us about them, I believe I’d have gobbled up algorithmic theory and aced the course. (Well: at least I might have struggled through and passed it.)

Look at just how intriguing Word Clouds can be. I created each of them with the same text pasted into the template; it’s from the Books section on www.elizabethabbott.ca, my website, and is a big whack of critical praise (it’s my prerogative to omit any of the critical un-praise) for my most recent book, A History of Marriage. Word Cloud algorithms then gulped down all these wonderful words and reproduced them, bowing to my instructions about font, colour and size, and whether they should be structured or randomized. I haven’t yet conquered saving those that aren’t jpgable, but I managed to learn how to do screenshots instead, a minor triumph for someone fighting a lifetime’s self-identification as a math-and-science dunce.

At least I thought I had. But after posting this I realized that I can’t yet save screenshots on WordPress. Too bad, because my favorite Word Cloud is a Wordle, the colours rich against a stark background, key words jumbled out like an knock-down, no holds-barred spousal argument on a moonlit camping trip. Nor can I provide the source code, because Jonathan Feinberg, Wordle’s supremely clever inventor, wrote the the core algorithms on IBM company time, making IBM the owner, with reserved rights.

This Word It Out reminds me of a scribbled note in a womanly hand. It offers the promise (though it cannot deliver it) of a prose passage, an important message to be heeded if only one could.

Marriage Letter

This one is precise and messily serious, a teaching tool with built in Post-It notes and highlighter.

The one below is sexier, marriage and all its components squished into a heart pulsating with words in shades of pinkness.

Marriage From the Perspective of a Pink Heart

But the dangers of Word Clouds are already revealed. They are wickedly seductive and time-consuming, which is why I’m going to post these Clouded Words now, algorithms now loved though as mysterious as they ever were.

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Arnold Schwarzenegger’s Traditional Affair

Arnold Schwarzenegger’s Traditional Affair

Arnold Schwarzenegger with mistress Patty Baena

Arnold Schwarzenegger is a traditional man! His cheating on Maria followed the age-old tradition of the sexual Double Standard that accommodates extramarital sex for husbands by allowing them to have mistresses or concubines. Nobody understood this better than Bill Clinton, who offered this definitive explanation of why he dallied with Monica Lewinski: “Because I could.” And so could and did Schwarzenegger, with Patty Baena as well as, the rumor mill alleges, legions of other women. Like other high-powered, dynamic and powerful men, his sense of entitlement and invulnerability prompted him to do what he wanted, when and with whom he wanted it. Or as Woody Allen, shrugging off vitriolic criticism for having committed adultery with his step-daughter, put it: “The heart wants what the heart wants.”

All three of these men looked close to home for sexual adventure though the lovelorn Allen’s subsequent marriage to his step-daughter/mistress puts his into rather a different category. But Clinton’s affair with a White House intern and Schwarzenegger’s with his family’s housekeeper are the stuff of tradition. Male employers throughout history have regarded their staff as sexually available, and Patty Baena was no exception. The details of their relationship – who pursued whom? What possessed them to have unprotected sex? What was their immediate game plan with regards to Maria and the Schwarzenegger children? Did Rogelio de Jesus Baena know or guess whose child Patty was carrying? – may be fascinating fodder for speculation, but they do not change the power dynamics of their employer-employee relationship. The fact that they conceived a child was a complicating but not unusual factor.

Maria Shriver Schwarzenegger

Even Schwarzenegger’s response to his love child is traditional. Though he supported his son financially, he carefully concealed his identity from all but those trusted friends and professionals – lawyers, accountants, bankers – who helped him maintain the fiction that his only children were Maria’s.

Until very recently, the children of mistresses were bastardized and pregnancy was a dreaded occupational hazard.  The maid cast out into the world after being impregnated by her employer was a literary theme and in literature as in life, she was blamed, scorned and despised, and her child suffered with her. In the last decade laws have struck down the concept of bastardization, and in the eyes of the law, a child is a child whether born within or out of wedlock. Schwarzenegger respected that enough to ensure that his son with Patty, born a mere five days after Christopher, his son with Maria, lived in comfort if not the luxury he provided for his legitimate children.

Before egalitarianism, some North American men provided for their illegitimate children though if they attempted to make testamentary beneficiaries, relatives almost always contested their wills. Segregationist politician Strom Thurmond was one such clandestine father. His daughter, Essie Mae Washington-Williams, was born to his mother’s African-American domestic, sixteen-year old Carrie Butler, when Strom was twenty-two year-old. Thurmond died in public office at the age of one hundred, still notorious for his relentless advocacy of racial segregation. (He sounded “like the ghost of Adolph Hitler,” Essie Mae recalled.)

Essie Mae and her father, Senator Strom Thurmond

But in private, Thurmond offered financial support and was keenly interested in and proud of his biracial daughter though they first met only when Essie Mae was a teenager. Only after Thurmond died in 2003 did Essie Mae disclose what Thurmond’s colleagues and friends had long suspected. The Thurmond family, graciously and unusually, confirmed her paternity and spoke of her right to know her heritage. (It helped that she had no interest in suing for a share of her father’s estate – her moral and legal right.) Her half-brother, Strom Thurmond Jr., added that he was eager to get to know her.

Unlike Thurmond, who was unmarried at the time of his relationship with Essie Mae’s mother, Schwarzenegger’s situation was messier though the times were kinder. There is much speculation about why he waited for fourteen years to ‘fess up to Maria and attempt to make peace with their children. Several possible reasons suggest themselves: a) Someone was going to blow the whistle on him and he pre-empted them by telling Maria himself. b) He could not have supported the child without leaving a paper trail, so he and Patty were not the only ones in on the secret. c) His governorship was over and he could finally breathe more freely, and had an impulse to get it off his chest though until then he had categorically and publicly denied all accusations of marital infidelity. d) He either miscalculated how terribly revelations would devastate Maria, or else he decided to put all his cards on the table and see what happened.

And what about Patty? She may also have believed she had urgent reasons to keep the affair quiet. She had a generous salary as the Schwarzenegger’s housekeeper, she got support payments for her son and she knew Schwarzenegger wasn’t going to leave Maria for her. The Schwarzenegger-Baena saga is ongoing. So far, however, it has not strayed far from the traditional story of powerful men, risk takers by vocation, defying the social morality that would condemn them for betraying their marriage vows, in Schwartzenegger’s case, spectacularly so.

And onward we plod....

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